Well I'm sure what I'm going to say won't come as a surprise nor as any information you won't already know or stick to but first of all, take a deep breath and calm down. Second, I'm sure this post will continue to get some traffic but once it starts to die down, just let it slip down the list and out of memory, maybe contact a mod to have it removed? Third, try not to keep things bottled up, it honestly doesn't set a good example for GMs, especially as you've clearly had time to think out and realise that this post is somewhat self-destructive and self-defeating, we all understand that you're upset, we've all been there and I really feel for you but if you're typing out about how you don't normally do this, why do it at all? Nobody's going to begrudge you for being upset once in a while but actively lashing out at people who are all pretty much here just to have fun isn't going to net you any friends. Fourth and perhaps most importantly, when not actively looking for games (and trust me, you need to strike hard and fast when you see a game you want to be a part of so if you see anything in the Find a Group function or the LFG forum, jump on it fast as possible), post up in here and elsewhere and don't just throw up a plain old, "Hey, looking for D&D, help me out." actually throw out some information, every single person I know would be a lot more inclined to respond to somebody who goes out of their way to make it clear what they want rather than somebody who just throws up a simple little post asking if anybody wants to give them a game, whatever it is. It shows initiative, drive and excitement, things which are crucial for roleplaying, the better a handle people have on you as a player, the better they feel they can trust you and the more excited they'll be to play with you, nobody wants to sit down at the table with Steve the fighter or Dave the warrior who's only solutions are hitting things and casting fireball at things respectively. As for the information you should include, let me toss out a few suggestions in that field you should include: Times and dates that you can make, after all, there's no point getting invited to a game that occurs on a time or date you can't make, also remember to post up your timezone when looking for games online. Any games, particular game styles or settings you'd like to play, after all, there are so many different games out there to play and so many different settings to enjoy. Even in D&D, do you want Eberron, Forgotten Realms, do you want to play a particular module, perhaps you're looking for a homebrew or maybe you'd like to try Shadowrun or Call of Cthulhu or Paranoia or Traveller or a new game you've never even played but would like to try. The sort of situations, players and even GMs you'd like to play with, perhaps you want somebody who can run a combat heavy campaign where talking is for wimps and diplomacy is conducted at the barrel of a crossbow or maybe you'd like to steer away from combat as much as possible and focus on a deep political intrigue or strike some balance of the two. Deep dungeons, creepy crypts, horror and monsters or cities, forests, friends and adventure, tell the people what you're after! You don't want to get stuck with a GM or players who you can't get along with and don't think that you're being rude by saying that you're not looking for something, you're perfectly within your right to deny a game as being not something you'd want to be a part of. Include just a little about yourself, maybe hint at what you personally would like to play or enjoy, what you'd want to get out of the experience, I tend to drone on but trust me, injecting just a little personality in either dialogue or through direct communication i.e. just saying things plainly and outright, will help a lot. I feel that the last thing I should mention before I leave is your grammar, I don't want this to seem like an attack, as a dyslexic, I know the struggles of reading and writing for some people but it should be said, if you have access to Word, I would use it. Never underestimate the power of appearance, a well laid-out, properly punctuated and capitalised post is always going to catch the eye more than a post with poor grammatical discipline. Again, to be clear, I do not want to upset you but it should be stated, that's my best advice for finding games. You don't need to follow any of it but I just happen to think that it helps. I wish you luck!
