I tend to run far more than I play, as a result I play like how I run. I solicit and offer feedback, prefer more casual play, more story (narrative-based) systems while trying to avoid certain common pitfalls like the games where the GM always defers to a specific player or doesn’t get both sides to a story. While that makes it difficult to find a group of like-minded easy-going folks, when you find them, treat them like the gems they are. Everyone has off days, you can forgive and offer support or you can passive-aggressive your way out. The first helps keep groups together and builds rapport, the other happens far too often and games peter out. I have had ongoing groups spanning decades. Still do. I found by far the best way to ‘find a game’ is to run. Even with that, you have to realize that we live in an age where many folks don’t honor commitments, rsvp, or keep their word. It’s not personal, folks just skip and do not consider how it may impact the other folks who set aside a block of their time for fun. For others real life rears its ugly head and they have to drop. Just keep at it, eventually you will find one.