Tim M. said: At the Abbey, Erasmus approaches Qiviel. "Jyrdani told me about your conversation. Thank you for your support with this matter, I can assure you the flat of your blade will not be needed. "If I may, I would seek your counsel, too? Jyrdani has expressed worry over my safety. Obviously, her wellbeing now comes before all else as far as I am concerned, but I understand and appreciate the sentiment. But what can I do? Unless I get involved in the thick of combat, I may as well not even be there. It's not as though I can simply armour up - if I wear even simple leathers, I am too restricted to be of any use and may actually be more of a liability. I admit, I have been saving up to acquire the reagents required for Fraener to manufacture me some magical bracers, but now I feel like my money is better spent elsewhere, such as building a home for this new family that has come so suddenly out of the blue. Any advice you can give would be gratefully received." Q considers the question, turning her helmet over in her hands. “Ultimately, my advice is just that: advice. My father always said that the only reason his marriage to my mother was successful was because he forced himself to remember she was capable of making decisions for herself and he never made any decision that affected her without her consent, no matter how much he thought himself doing what was best for her.” “You do not need to leave combat to try to keep yourself safe, but you do need to change some behaviours if her concern is that without her you will end up dead. Think: when are you most vulnerable, when do you need saving? When you end up separating yourself from the group or when you chase after retreating enemies? When you jump in first rather than relying on your allies? If those are her concerns, then my advice is to change your methods, not your involvement. Stay with the group or stay with those who are armoured, think twice before running off or jumping in first. You do not need to hide behind us but rely on the group to help keep you alive.” She sets her helmet on her lap. “In terms of armour and long term financial security, remember that you will earn no more money if you are dead, so armour is not a waste of money, it can also be sold, if you end up needing a consistent income without danger later, you can always teach or take up guard work, you don’t need to buy a house as long as you can afford to rent one with an income.” She looked him hard in the eye, “You are not the only adult in the relationship. Do not mistake yourself as the only responsible party. Jyrdani may well have a family home due to her or support from others that mean you save for naught. Best lay out all your assets together and decide how you aim to live under a variety of circumstances. Be reasonable adults about it.” Picking her helm up again, she adds, ”Of course, do that early because once the mood swings kick in and considering her rage, well, I may have pity on you after that.”
