Old school table top gamer going back as far as the 80s. (I realize as I write this how long ago that was...ugh).
Anyway - I've played lots of different games and found that the best ones - the most fun - are the ones where the GM and the players all agree that the rules exist as a framework to tell a story together. This isn't about 'optimizing builds' or 'min-maxing' it's about building a world that will stick with all of you for years to come.