Or, what happened to me just recently, your player Application could even get deleted with no notice or reason. So even if you follow a post you can even find yourself highly disappointed in not just one way. I do agree, i also think of myself as "too old school" and notify and like to be notified. Maybe not in whisper form but maybe just one post on the forum from the DM in the lines of "Still looking" < meaning that the applications from above did not pass. (back when i first stared using R20 i even gave individual reasons for why i did not pick X,Y,Z ... Yes CoC and other non DND 5e systems are... well... Not popular. And because the "market" is overflowed with 5e players and games, people can afford the luxury of not giving an f, because there is always some other game/player.